A Patron....

A patron god is a particular deity we feel an affinity for that we choose to honor as the main influence in our lives. Many Pagans believe that all gods and goddesses are representations of the one life force. Others believe that each deity is a god in their own right. Regardless of which philosophy you ascribe to, having a patron deity can be a powerful way to interact with the divine in ourselves and creation.

I have heard many Pagans say that they did not choose their patron. Instead, they were chosen by their patron and sometimes this choosing wasn't in the most pleasant of circumstances. Even the most self-assured Pagan can be a bit of a skeptic when it comes to a personal relationship with the divine, and it takes a hard thump on the head to get our attention. Of course, this isn't always the case, and the gods can enter our lives as gently as a summer breeze.

Aspects of the gods can be what initially draws us to them. If you are a writer and follow a Celtic path, then maybe the goddess Brigid, a goddess of poetry and inspiration, will be who you feel most attracted to. If you are a soldier and follow a Greek path, then Ares, the fierce warrior god is who you feel is your protector and patron. Once you attune to your patron though you will find that there are many aspects to their character and personality that you had not known of before.

I don't see why everyone needs to have one. Patronage is a lifelong affair. It's like having someone looking over your shoulder all the time. Your life tends to change with their will as well. It's not always so nice and pretty. In many aspects it can and will lend you power, however, they will also be very vocal with you in their disapproval as well.

To date the closest bond I have with any male deity is with Annwn, the God of Death/the Underworld from Welsh Mythology, I can feel his presence when others might not be felt so strong.

One might take this part of a Book of Shadows to write about their Patron deity why they have learned and rituals in that deities honor, personally I keep my Rituals in the Index or rear of my BoS.